Tuesday, March 6, 2012

Ripples, Racism, Paternalism and Slut Shame

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"What business do you have wanting birth control, you whore?!"

The radical, uber-conservative right has taken the entire debate over whether women are important enough to consider their reproductive health (which is by the way, a major biological function of all human females and as important as erectile dysfunction and prostate cancer is to men) in regards to govt. mandated insurance coverage straight to the gutter because that's where their minds are.

The misogyny and slut shame is so off the charts, it's beyond sickening.


My ancestors stood on auction blocks while they were prodded, exposed, and humiliated because they were for sale and no different than livestock in the minds of racists and slave mongers. They had to stand still while their private parts were examined and handled by strangers. They had to listen (if they spoke English) to other human beings reduce their whole existence down to a 15 second advertisement. "Healthy, child-rearing age, strong, field work experience, "spoiled" sexually, won't run away...".

When you're reduced to being humiliated like this, nothing of yours is sacred in the minds of your captors and abusers. You have no privacy, no dignity, no mind and no soul. You're nothing. People can run you down and they can do it right to your face and while you're in the same room and there's nothing you can do about it. Overseers come into your house and turn over your mattresses whenever the mood strikes them. They're demanding to see the evidence of your first menstruation cycle so that they can use you as a sex slave or a breeding machine to make more slaves (some black, some half black) if you're a girl.


That horrifying time in history shapes the anti-black American racism we see today. Even though the force and energy of the ripple subsides when blacks are no longer on display to the world as livestock, those old, bad times still move the water around me in 2012. The ripples are weaker but I can still feel the auctioneers prodding me when the anti-"soshulisms" freaks demand to know what I spent my welfare check on or even imply that I receive one without them knowing anything about my life.

They look into my living room to see if I can afford cable or if I'm buying crack and Cadillacs with my tax payer-funded money. They want to count how many of us black women are unwed mothers so they can report to the world how many times we've been "spoiled" out of wedlock. They'd love to know how many abortions we've had collectively had so again, they can count the times we screw and note how slutty we are.

They say we're looting while white people are salvaging or surviving. There's an unwelcome familiarity in these kinds of accusations, like someone saying things about you when they've never met you. It's surreal and so shocking, it makes you speechless. The cops have searched through our vehicles, dwellings and our pockets without cause for decades that I was alive to witness, an egregious violation of fourth amendment rights to say the very least.

What does the world think of you when you're always on the side of the road with three cop cars parked behind you, spread out face down on the hood? What kind of humiliation and exposure of your privacy and violation of your human dignity makes people believe that they can tell you what to do with your private parts?

How long can this kind of harassment carry on before it just morphs with the times into some other kind of paternalism and subjugation? I don't know if there's a time frame for this but it seems to never end. It just becomes something else. When people are demanding to know why at times in my life, I have been vulnerable, poor and I needed the govt.'s help, I feel like I'm on the auction block. The govt. says I qualify for it regardless. These certain people (racists) believe that they should be able to do everything short of examining my teeth for proof of my age and they don't think I see what they're doing. Most importantly, they don't care.

They want to see PRESIDENT Obama's birth certificate, his college essays, his elementary school art work and basically an 8mm video of Barack's mother's birth canal at the moment he was born. They want to see white doctors on video with JFK accents handing him over to a Pacific Islander nurse wearing a hula skirt and a ring of flowers around her neck or else he's a fraud.

They watch First Lady Michelle Obama's habits like she's a suspicious house maid trying to steal the silver. They draw her body as obese in cartoons even though she's nowhere near it. They diminish her looks and comment on her body parts and nothing is scared about her as far as her haters are concerned. They diminish their own dignity when they reduce themselves to trying to disrespect the First Lady of the United States this way but in the meantime, the gall of them to do this is unnerving in a way that ripples from a long time ago.
You see where I'm going here?

So, when you're a woman and you've been regarded as the property of men for so long, people begin to believe that they should be able to talk about your private parts, what you do with them and with how many people. They think they should be able to talk about you under your clothes, comment on the clothes you wear under your clothes, and even speculate on the cleanliness of your body.

Sometimes it's not so sexual but no less sexually degrading. I've had men that I was just talking to in a store tell me how unworthy of marriage I was because cooking food all day isn't my favorite goddamn thing to do. Awwww, I'm totally crushed at dodging the bullet of an asshole who wants a stove slave rather than a life partner. Can't afford a butler so he goes around rating random women on their servant skills, declaring whether they're marry-able or not. Kiss my entire ass and gtfo here. I wouldn't marry an asshole like that if we were trapped together in a Ray Bradbury story and had to populate Mars to save the human race.

This is the world we live in. This is what women deal with all the time. We are stifled, slandered, disrobed, prodded and humiliated for the sake of control.
When women collectively demand anything that resembles equality or something that would lead to our empowerment, the forces that work against us will get around eventually to robbing us of dignity and ripping off our clothes in public to expose our private parts. The latest war on women over mandated birth control coverage is the perfect setup for the female and male misogynists on the right to begin singling out one brave woman standing up for her own empowerment and heaping on the slut shame. It's so schoolyard-ish, it's almost unworthy of attention but this is a widespread problem.

The ripples on the water...

"So Miss Fluke and the rest of you feminazis, here's the deal," he said. "If we are going to pay for your contraceptives and thus pay for you to have sex, we want something. We want you to post the videos online so we can all watch."

Dana Loesch on twitter, advocating to deny women reproductive control and also threatening to verbally abuse them because, you know, sluts aren't worthy of respect and decency;

If you expect me to pay higher insurance premiums to cover your "free" birth control, I can call you whatever I want.

Patricia Heaton on twitter, discussing the undergarments of a woman she knows nothing about

Hey G-Town Gal: Turn your underwear inside out! Then u only have to do laundry every two weeks - saves on detergent and trips to laundromat!

If this isn't proof of the mucky cesspool of misogyny that women barely tread water in everyday to survive, I dunno what is. How are these woman-hating freaks on the American, conservative, radical uber right sleeping at night and not seeing the parallels between what they believe about "sluts" and what they imagine is Sharia Law?

If she demands any kind of empowerment, sexual or otherwise, she is stoned to death. Rush, Dana, Patricia and others refuse to see the stones they've thrown at Sandra Fluke.

If she demands equality and reproductive control, she is surrounded on the streets and humiliated by people who yell "slut!" at her, I'm guessing shortly before she is stoned to death or whipped with 100 lashes.

Patricia Heaton lobbed so many stones at G-Town girl, she deleted her account because of the bad PR.


I don't know if these apologies and account deleting mean anything other than self-preservation for these fat cats that make their money on hate spew. Perhaps they mean that women have won the right to be regarded as human beings while demanding their empowerment.

Or perhaps the fact that this is even a debate is a better indication of where we stand as women in regards to our own empowerment, progress and liberation. That the world believes they should vote on the rights of any of us is a frightening thing to process but this thing with women is ongoing since the beginning of time. That our autonomy as women must be argued and debated in a country that supposedly endorses life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness is just another ripple in a sea of misogynist history.

I intend to keep my head above the water no matter how high they make this tide.


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